If this has happened or is happening for you, you are not alone! Reintegration is often a bit sticky, and many retreat centers, events, and many ceremonialists often forget to leave you with practical tools for exactly HOW to step back into your “real” life.
Here’s what’s going on and what to do about it.
Re-entry can be tough for a few reasons:
How do you know if you’re having trouble integrating?
If any or all of the below resonate for you, then you would benefit from the reentry tips that follow. Please also feel free to share this article with friends who are returning from trips abroad where they’ve done medicine work such as Ayahuasca, Huachuma (San Pedro), Mushrooms, Kambo, Iboga, Sapo, or Ibogaine.
With all this possible aftermath, it can make you seriously doubt that deep spiritual work is worth it. But, it is SO worth it! There are COUNTLESS eventual (and sometimes immediate) rewards for coming home to yourself, unwinding your patterns, and learning how to walk forward in your life with power and grace.
These rewards aren’t something you “earn” by doing the work… They are not necessarily material in nature, and you have no guarantees (ever) of an easier time while you’re here. These rewards are a deep sense of personal power, an open heart, an ability to create authentic connections with others, and a strong sense of self-trust.
Changing your life completely isn’t easy, or everyone would be doing it every two seconds.
But those who are brave enough to face their inner darkness, ask hard questions of themselves, and take responsibility for their actions and reactions have INCREDIBLE potential for their lives.
So…. hang on with your reintegration. It really is all worthwhile…
Here are some tips to help you land back on planet earth and live what you came here to do.
10 tips for a smooth reentry:
1. Cultivate a supportive community.
If you desire to share your experience, ask questions, and explore further, there are a number of open-minded online communities to start with, which may lead to local connections. Try reaching out to Reset.me, Spirit Science, and of course, my Facebook page. But, give it some time before you dive into storytelling…
2. Don’t share your experiences too soon or too widely.
The visions and insights in your ceremony or gathering were meant specifically for you. They are deeply personal to you and your journey, even if some of the messages and symbols seem to be similar to others’. Sharing with your fellow participants within the ceremonial space or circle may be part of the ritual design and this is usually a facilitated process. That’s not what I’m talking about here.
Once your circle is opened or the gathering ends, it can be a huge temptation to share your journey with the guy next to you on the plane, strangers on the bus, friends, clients, etc.
But if you immediately start sharing with others the details of what you saw, it is an energy leak and can even dissipate spiritual power/insight. And, if someone expresses shock, disbelief, or anger at what you say, it can make you defensive and irritated; energies not at all in resonance with connection, trust, and love. Thus further removes you from the state you’ve worked so hard to access.
I suggest that you think of your journey a private inner fire to cultivate and nurture. Once it’s nice and strong, with plenty of internal fuel, then you can share a bit of your experience (with discernment). After a few weeks, you’ll run less of a risk of being deflated or feeling defensive if you’re met with any opposition.If you feel like you need skilled support with a Shaman or therapist, reach out to me and I will be happy to connect you with someone if I am not the best fit.
3. Take time for personal reflection/meditation.
Journaling, shamanic journeying, or meditation can be excellent tools to help you understand and put words to what is initially a wordless state of knowing/seeing/feeling/being. Putting language/imagery/metaphor to it can help you make sense of what you saw/felt/knew and help you retain that understanding going forward. Meditation can also help you continue to practice being a Witness to your thoughts and yourself… which leads to Tip #4:
4. Practice being The Witness.
Learning to Witness (and not label or judge) your thoughts, behaviors, and yourself is a lifelong practice that will serve you in every situation (and deserves a full post of it’s own). Being a “witness” means that you notice your thoughts without attaching to or identifying with them. You simply observe yourself (and others). This observation practice keeps you from getting tangled up in your emotions, stories, and patterns and allows you to watch them, as if you’re watching the sky change with the weather. With practice, you can then notice and release judgements, and return to a state of compassionate open-heartedness toward yourself and all beings. Eckhart Tolle’s book The Power of Now has some excellent suggestions for cultivating your inner Witness.
5. Eat grounding foods.
To help you reconnect to your body and root yourself firmly on Terra Firma, eat foods like root vegetables, sustainably sourced meats, and bone broth.Being grounded helps you feel safe, secure, provided for, and creates an overall sense of well-being… Feeling rooted and stable creates a sense of self-trust that you can handle whatever comes your way.
6. Rest and hydrate.
Naps and extra water or coconut water will work wonders for your nervous system and energy levels. You’ve likely just hit a major RESET button on many aspects of your physical, psychological, and emotional self. Even if you aren’t sure why, you are probably fatigued, outside of the physical stamina required for the gathering, ceremony, or other work. Rest is always recommended when we are in a growth spurt.
Just like when we are babies, sleep can help replenish the extra energy it takes to evolve. Go to bed earlier than usual and avoid electronics at bedtime to allow your body to shut down properly. The additional water will help modulate your emotions and assist any cycles of purging or flushing of toxins that need to complete.
7. Create art.
Spirituality, ceremony, and medicine go hand in hand with art. Your Heart and Soul yearn to express themselves. This doesn’t mean you need to become an “Artist” – perhaps some simple lines and spirals are all that want to come through. Or coloring in a beautiful coloring book… Allowing yourself freedom to express beauty, color, and form is liberating and affirming. If it feels like too much pressure, then go for creating something purposefully unskilled! Let yourself have fun with it.
8. Be kind and gentle toward yourself and others.
You aren’t always going to be perfect at this. No doubt you’ll make mistakes, slip back into old habits, speak or act unskillfully… And you’ll certainly observe others in their imperfection (that part is easy, ha!). This is ohhhhhhhh-kay! It’s all part of being human. There is a beauty in forgetting, because it makes the remembering all that much sweeter.
Mistakes are gifts. Everything we do provides us with information and feedback; opportunities to re-center, re-prioritize, re-claim, re-turn. Life is like a shoreline… We never arrive at a perfect center point. We constantly dance back and forth like the tides… Forgetting, remembering… it’s all part of the dance. For everyone. Allow them and yourself to be imperfect. Entrust everyone to their own strength and courage, including you.You can handle this.
9. Track signs, synchronicities, and symbols.
Deep spiritual experiences of all kinds leave a lasting impression, often in the form of patterns, symbols, signs, and synchronicities. Whether it’s a repeating number (like 11:11, 22, 33, 11:44, etc.), a certain phrase, a song, a color, a shape… these things take on personal meaning and become talismans of your connection with the Sacred, both in waking reality and in dreams. Pay attention and make it a game to notice and acknowledge these winks from the Universe/ Source/God/The Divine/Goddess… They are meant to help you remember who you are and let you know you are supported in your journey.
10. Refrain from making major decisions for a few weeks.
Once you’ve had time to fully ground, download the wisdom and insights, and allow it to slowly percolate through you until it feels bone deep, then it’s time to begin making shifts in your life circumstances… doing so from a place of proaction rather than reaction makes all the difference in how those decisions will ultimately feel. You don’t need to rush.
Create a regular spiritual or shamanic practice for yourself to tap into guidance, connect with your Soul, listen to your body, and give yourself space for stillness. Life will no doubt get busy again, and that’s okay… All the spiritual work in the world doesn’t help a thing if it can’t assist you with your everyday life. So bring it down to the ground and trust yourself, the universe, and the Sacred design of your path.
Does this article resonate? Help?
If so, please share it with your network and send to others who will benefit from it.
And, if you are looking for ethical shamanic work virtually and/or local to San Diego, CA – please reach out to me. I host a variety of playshops, circles, rituals, retreats, and classes in addition to immersive one-on-one work with people around the world. See my Coaching + Retreats page for a current list of happenings!
May your reintegration be as smooth, beautiful, powerful and lasting as possible.
May your evolution be for the best and highest good of all beings.
May it be so.